The days between

January 1, 2016

One of the things I love about our family holiday tradition is that we linger in this in-between space between Christmas and New Years, and a little beyond.

I love seasonal rhythms and this is one of mine: a slow post-Christmas period to rest, reflect, party a bit more if desired (the kids always want this, I'm less keen), and ease into the New Year.

I haven't always done this. There have been years where we've traveled during that period, or continued our holiday visiting with family but I discovered a few years ago that a true pause between the intensity of family Christmas (we're almost always hosting or staying with extended family for Christmas) and the start of the New Year is a most wonderful, helpful, and life-affirming seasonal practice for me.

Now, I block out these days on our December/early January calendar.

I'm writing another post right now, which I'll publish soon, that discusses in part, the work of making Christmas. These days of lingering and lounging around New Year's are what help me put all that effort into the Christmas holiday.

This is something I feel pretty strongly about, the importance of give and take in family life and that women, and mothers in specific (myself most specifically) don't drain themselves over the holidays "for the sake of the family".

Christmas itself isn't really a "holiday" for me, and my needs for rest and downtime are as important as my kids' needs for all the high energy and excitement they experience at Christmas. These experiences, these memories, do not materialize from a fairy wand, or Santa's sleigh, but from mother's effort.

Because I spend every day with my kids, all year round, there is no rush to fill school vacation with "togetherness", or snow activities. Except for very specific events, like New Year's Eve, we can do it next week. Whatever "it" is.