Launching Life 3.0

A couple months ago I mentioned the term Life 3.0. I didn't have any time then to explain what I meant by that. Now I do.

Very simply, Life 3.0 is what we are calling this next stage of our family life

Life 3.0 is:

  • having a mid-thirties adventure so we don't have a mid life crisis
  • knowing who we are as a family and living by those values
  • raising kids from young children into young adults
  • making big, big changes to pursue our passions and live wholeheartedly

A Little Family History

Damien and I started our married lives much like other couples. We married young (though that's not so common), Damien worked a 9 to 5ish job as a civil engineer and I finished my schooling.

On the side, Damien worked with computer technology having discovered that the readily available project management type jobs in civil engineering did not best use his skills or passions. When the opportunity arose eleven years ago for him to work a 9 to 5ish job in the computer industry, building his skills and expertise to support our family, we jumped at the chance. Even though the job was on the other side of the continent and in another country. We were young and adventurous. We still are. 

We left Canada with one baby and quickly welcomed two more, both born in the United States. One in New Jersey and one in Maine. New Jersey was a two year stint during which we discovered that family time (something not highly valued by his employers) truly mattered. We wanted to be together more as a family.

Through an interesting and unexpected turn of events we moved to Maine, where we lived for the past nine years. I invested myself wholeheartedly into raising children and managing our home, furthering my career as homemaker and mom. We re-discovered the outdoors and started our homeschooling journey.

After a few years Damien found a great job with excellent benefits, good work hours and environment, and stable income in the IT department at a private college. We made friends, contributed to our community, participated in church, bought a home and decided to stay. 

Or rather, we asked the government if we could stay, ie: we applied for permanent residency.

While we waited (and spent lots of money) for the government to get back to us on that we started talking seriously about our dreams for the next stage of our lives. We discovered and grew our creative gifts. We questioned the "daddy goes to work, mommy stays at home" structure we had built. We talked about what life would look like as we raised our young children into young adults. 

We decided we needed to make changes to create the life we envisioned for our family moving forward.

Only problem was - making those changes was not possible without our permanent residency. And permanent residency was not forthcoming.

So we made the very hard decision to move. To de-construct the life we had built in Maine. To leave our home, our routine, our community.

To take the lessons we had learned over the years, the skills we had developed, and the family identity we had nurtured to create the life we want. No longer willing to put our dreams on hold.

The Present Day

Last weekend, after years of heart-to-heart discussions, prayer, money management, dreaming, scheming, waiting, preparing, hoping, and hard work we took the leap. We moved so we could position ourselves in a place where we can actually follow our dreams and live the life we want as a family.

So begins Life 3.0.

The third stage (or iteration, as my engineering husband would call it) of our family's life. The first was our early married years in Canada - starting our family. The second was our move to the United States - growing our family and creating our family identity, building our careers and discovering ourselves as adults.

This next part of family life, Life 3.0, is taking the dreams, values and goals that grew out of those first two stages and running with them. Integrating our "earning money" lives with our family life - a merging of our careers into a family livelihood. Bringing together passions and purpose. Preparing to launch our children into adulthood.

Creating the life we want, with the family we love.

I have big plans for how I want to share this journey with you and how I can encourage and inspire you to follow your chosen path. All in due time.

There are still boxes to be unpacked and new family life routines to be worked out.

The photos in this post are mostly from our last week in Maine before the move. The packing and overall working our butts off to get out the door.

I took a bunch of photos that week. Not pretty photos, just nitty gritty, where the rubber meets the road type of photos. We also took video of our actual drive from Maine to Nova Scotia. This weekend Damien put those together in a short video with our family's moving anthem - American Dream by Switchfoot as background music.

You gotta watch the video and listen to that song. Read the lyrics, it suits our move perfectly.

Let the adventure begin.

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  • stacey

    stacey on May 31, 2011, 6:03 p.m.

    love this! i love that you guys are choosing to make your dreams happen. many times i think we just sit back a wait, but we can't! our family is on a similar journey and i suppose it could be called our life 3.0 too. congratulations on taking the bull by the horn and creating your own destiny! and good luck!

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  • tara

    tara on June 1, 2011, 11:26 a.m.

    Perfectly said. Life 3.0 -- great term. It takes such courage to do what you have all done as a family -- to make the tough decision that is the right decision. I can't wait to see what 3.0 has in store for all of you.

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  • Karen Blados

    Karen Blados on June 1, 2011, 2:38 p.m.

    I'm so glad I found you when I did. I'm finding myself and my family are going through a similar transition right now. I'm hoping to be able to share some of it on my site soon, but in the meantime I'm finding your journey so inspiring! Please continue sharing ... it is greatly appreciated!

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    • renee

      renee on June 1, 2011, 3:44 p.m.

      Oh... Karen, I can't wait to here about it! And yes, I know it takes time to share these things. This move of ours has been planned for a couple years and I wasn't able to write about it until the beginning of this year.

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  • Nola

    Nola on June 2, 2011, 1:36 a.m.

    This is very interesting to read about it all unfolding. Especially since I can see us eventually choosing to make or even being forced to make big changes in our life. There is so much uncertainty right now we are just waiting to see what unfolds with my husband's job situation.

    I started married life young too (20). I often get people looking at my kids and then at me and asking me how old I am. I also look younger than my already young self. Its quite funny...people don't expect someone under 30 to have kids or to have a 5 year old for that matter. You have a beautiful family. You inspire me to build stronger family relationships with my own husband and kids.

    Thank you for sharing it all here its very inspiring and interesting to read. I look foward to reading more about your adventure and new life.

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  • Spalva

    Spalva on June 2, 2011, 9:23 a.m.

    Gee, I don't come around for a while and the move's all done (sorta, for the moment anyway).

    Though our moves have gotten heavier every time (I'm not sure any family can stick with a footlocker for long), I can't imagine moving a full house. Well done!

    For us, what I might call Life 5.0 has been on hold for a while, this makes me antsy, but I try hard to keep my eye on today. I do wonder what Life 5.0 will be. I hope it involves community and friends for everyone in the family.

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  • Jennifer @ kidoing!

    Jennifer @ kidoing! on June 2, 2011, 10:52 p.m.

    I've been pondering this. I don't think I know of any other family that has put pen to paper to create family goals such as these (or at least any family that has shared this with me). Very impressive. I think this is a dream many of us have, but we just don't know how to go about it. Just like having a baby, there is no instruction manual on how to live the life you want to live and love. Looking forward to seeing how things unravel for you...

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  • Jason Elsworth

    Jason Elsworth on June 3, 2011, 11:16 p.m.

    Good luck to you all. Don't forget what John Lennon wrote "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."

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  • Rachel Himes

    Rachel Himes on Sept. 20, 2012, 9:14 p.m.

    Hubby, 3 kids and myself are trying to figure out where our dreams will lead us. They have certainly changed in the 9 years since we married and began a family. He owned a massage business, I was doing personal training and working as a chef. Now he's returning to school to begin training in Christian ministry, and I am pursuing nutrition (my second passion) while home schooling 3 beautiful little ones. We have a lovely home in the country, but don't feel "settled". Not sure where God will lead us, but we've opened ourselves up to the adventure...wherever it goes.

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