Living the Dream

This season Kathie, at Two Frog Home, is doing a series of interviews called The Fall of Excuses. I love that play on words - fall for autumn and also "getting rid of the excuses standing in our way" as we work towards accomplishing our goals and dreams.

Kathie asked me to participate and last week my interview was featured. Kathie's questions were about life dreams. What dream I'm trying to accomplish, how I manage my time and stay committed, how to get out of ruts, and any words of advice I might have for other people wanting to live a life without excuses. 

I love those kind of questions. You'll have to click over to read my answers.

I've been thinking a lot about that interview this week as I struggle with being sick, nourishing my family back to health while unpacking and organizing the chalet.

The unpacking and organizing in itself is a monumental task. We are living in half the space we used to in Maine, Damien informs me it's less than half the space.Where is all this stuff going to go? (Hint: it's not all staying)

Of course, while I attend to these important and urgent mothering and homemaking tasks my writing (one of my dreams) waits and sits... again. Not completely. I'm writing this right? But I just don't have the physical and creative energy right now for my usual writing schedule (thank goodness for gracious editors that send kind e-mails reminding that your post is due today and then give extensions because you forgot). 

We're in transition, big time, with the added challenge of being sick. And I know priorities shift during these times. But it still bums me out because I've gained a lot of momentum in my creative discipline. I've been making steady progress in my writing goals since I stopped waiting for the stars to align.

And now I need to focus my energies elsewhere for a short period of time.

I was feeling kind of sorry for myself about this when I was reminded by these words I shared in Kathie's interview, "...I’m fairly content to be patient and wait for my writing dreams to unfold when I see so much else that we’ve dreamed and hoped for coming into being." 

Yes, my writing is somewhat interrupted right now. But we're actually living our big picture dream. Creating the life we want to live as a family.

Right here, right now is a place we've wanted to be for years. And I don't mean this chalet as such, though we love it. This current reality - a home in the woods (but close to town), Damien at home, freedom to pursue our dreams and adventure, sharing our days and experiences together - is what we've wanted for years. 

When this reality was only a dream it did not include the mess of boxes (when are dreams messy?) or round two of purging. Or having a house of sickies while trying to attend to all those boxes. But I realize these are all an important part of this adventure. And I'm living it.

So for now I will take comfort in Donald Miller's words. 

People who live good stories are too busy to write about them.

PS. I have not captured the beauty in my life this week with photography. There have been many beautiful moments - watching the sunrise each morning over the trees, the snow that's gently falling in the valley out my window (as I type), the afternoon sun through the big windows (illuminating piles of mess). But my cameras have sat mostly still. I'm just not in that space right now.

It will come though because life is beautiful and I can't wait till I feel healthy enough again to celebrate that with my art. So for today's post you get the real deal, what I have been looking at for the past week.


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  • FishMama

    FishMama on Nov. 19, 2011, 2:34 p.m.

    Thank you for some much needed perspective. I've been bowled over by my own writing dreams and projects and trying to do it all -- in a house of sickies. I'm the only one still standing -- out of eight!

    Your words remind me of past dreams (to have children, to have many children, to be debt free), dreams that I am living today. Thank you for renewing my thankfulness and for the encouragement to be patient for the next dreams.


  • se7en

    se7en on Nov. 19, 2011, 3:04 p.m.

    That's a beautiful post. I hope you just how many of us are living vicariously through you... you so inspire!!! Despite the boxes and the clutter and the colds and sickness and half space... you are inspiring us all!!!


  • Kika

    Kika on Nov. 19, 2011, 8:27 p.m.

    I think if we wish away the imperfect parts of life, it is kind of the same as wishing away life itself. Like when kids are little and we want to rush through certain moments or stages because they are hard. Later we look back and realize that those harder moments were life itself - beautiful in their own right. Still cheering you on from Alberta :)


  • steadymom

    steadymom on Nov. 19, 2011, 11:06 p.m.

    (thank goodness for gracious editors that send kind e-mails reminding that your post is due today and then give extensions because you forgot) -

    Ha! Moving a sick family cross-country takes precedence over blog posts every time.

    Yes, a new normal will evolve all on its own. Rachel DeMille told me that our new place would change us and we would change it, and out of that would evolve the normal that is just what it is meant to be. After six weeks here, that's already happened.

    Be gracious to yourself and plenty patient--enjoy the dream!

    xo, J


  • Angela Palmer

    Angela Palmer on Nov. 20, 2011, 7:46 p.m.

    I relate to Donald Miller's words. I have had the desire for several years to blog, but I feel my days are full enough already. It sounds like you're making steady progress Renee and hopefully all feeling much better by now!


  • kyndale

    kyndale on Nov. 21, 2011, 8:04 a.m.

    I'm always surprised that what I think I can't live without, is so temporary sometimes. The last time we moved, we filled a huge truck and more with stuff. Then I got to our new home and I thought to myself, "What the heck did I really need this for?!" My life is so cluttered right now. I need to purge again. Thank you for the needed reminder!


  • Heather

    Heather on Nov. 21, 2011, 12:01 p.m.

    You are extremely inspiring to me! I love reading the writing that you have shared so far, and wish you well in your goals of writing more. I love writing as well, and hope to someday be able to do more of it. As of now, my littles are just a tad too little to understand that mama needs some time to write so play quietly :-) I guess that is what a 3 and 1 year old gets you :-) Your interview at Two Frog Home was awesome as well! Thank you for the reminder that we all go through seasons, and to embrace the one you are in right now. I have a hard time doing that, always looking ahead to the next stage, I sometimes forget to enjoy what is right in front of me.


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